It can be hard finding the right words to comfort a friend who is going through a hard time. Sometimes “I’m here for you” can seem like it’s not enough to express how much you feel for them. Whether it’s a family fight, a bad break-up, or the death of someone close, you might want to use another way to say better. These guidelines can help you support a person in their recovery while maintaining your own emotional equilibrium.
“Witness” their feelings
One of the most difficult things about trying to comfort someone who’s hurting is feeling like you don’t know what to say. Fortunately, most of the time people aren’t actually looking for you to offer specific advice, the most comforting thing in the world isn’t an inspiring platitude, but feeling like someone else gets what you’re going through, and that you’re not alone in the world. The thing people want most when they’re hurting is for you to act as a sounding board and to show understanding and empathy. That calls “witnessing” your loved one’s distress.
Show them you understand their feelings
Sometimes people want advice or a proposed solution to their problem, but even then, they usually first simply want to express their feelings; as has often been observed, this is especially true of women. Just listen, get them to talk, so that they can lessen their feelings themselves. At this moment you can support them by sympathy 3D cards from Unipop. Our sympathy cards feature beautiful soothing imagery, and are filled with kind, care and faith, certain to bring light and peace of mind to anyone experiencing such profound sadness.
Choose another way to say feel better by suggesting action steps
As mentioned above, there are times when people just want to be heard and comforted, and don’t want a solution to their feelings of sadness. In such cases, after going through the above steps, the person typically feels better for having shared the burden on their heart.
Then ask them if they have any ideas as to steps they could take to improve the situation — solutions are more likely to be adopted if the person comes up with them on their own. If they’ve got big ideas, help break those down into action steps. If they’re at a loss as to how to proceed, offer your suggestions.
If you know someone with sadness what it all comes back to is this: love, compassion, and empathy are superpowers. Know that and use them. You’ll never know the difference you’ll be making or you can call it's magic when choosing another way to say feel better.